My Beautiful Friend, I know your life has been on a bumpy road lately, the rosy world of your early life is not going well, you are slowly starting to see your dreams evaporating in a blurry fog that was never planned!
Things and circumstances are not fun anymore and what made you laugh is now making you cry, right now, your are in the middle of the Crossroad that leads to Two contradictory paths in your life, you are not happy to be in this Crossroad but it is the way it is, and You have to stand up and take a decision to continue or terminate your relationship with your own Hand, you might even have an innocent Kid that makes your decision Harder.
I can see that you are literally, symbolically and Figuratively stuck!
I won't get into preaching Happiness and adopting Happy Go Lucky Problem Solving but I will try to give you a hand in your valley of indecision.
-Look, whatever happens , you will handle it, there are no Right or Wrong Decisions, what you think is bad might turn out to be something exceptionally good, so it is not the end of the world whether you stay or you move out of your Relationship. I understand your fear, your boredom and disbelief with what is happening to your relationship , but believe me , you have to make up your Mind and MOVE ON!
- Being upset with the Crossroad of Indecision is understandable, So Be Easy on yourself and have some self-compassion
-It is doesn't matter if you have mixed feelings
- Reviewing your relationship at this point is crucial, you have to understand and
Answer those Questions:
1)What Brought You Together initially? Do you still have Magic?
2) What Attracted You to each other? Personality, Intellect, Beauty?
3) What went Wrong?( Chemistry, life pressures, financial issues
4) Why Did it go wrong? What were the drivers behind?
5) Why didn't you resolve your problems, what affected you?
6) How can we Heal the Emotional Damage of the Relationship?
The problem you are facing now is a problem of trust, you don't want to blame yourself for missing an opportunity of happiness with someone you loved enough to get married to, you don't want your children to lead unhappy lives with loose attachments and an Emotional Vacuum?
You think it is the end of the World , but HELL NO, IT IS NOT!
You will go on with your life whichever decision you would take,
Life is stronger than you, your loved ones or your Children. No matter what happens, you will survive!
So take a deep breath, close your eyes , let go of the past, think about something Positive and Clear your Mind! You will be alright:)
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