90 days

Ninenty days have passed since your are gone.
The body has died but your spirit lives on.
Your sage word of wisdom, your big picture views.
The encouraging smile despite your intense pain.
Your ultimate presence and the shining glitter in your eyes.
Nothing could take down your spirit till the last minute of your life.
The mind was sharpely present and the heart full of hope.
Living minute by minute enjoying the gift of life and the essence of existence by always connecting to your higher self, the pure version of you.
Souls are immortal and beautiful spirits never die.
You are still shining on me as long as I am alive
The values, the spirit, the strength, the resilience, the courage to conquer fear, the power to fight the endless pain with a smile.
You never complained and you always pushed forward with a smile and a big heart and an amazingly strong willed spirit.
I know that your spirit is immortal and you must be living now in the hands of God where there is no separation, pain but ultimate joy and the freedom of your kind beautiful soul.
God Bless you Mama!

How is your Spirit Going?

Do you feel tired? Is your body aching? Do you feel you are just too bored to fight another fight even if you are fighting for your life ? Do you have an existential energy deficiency where you just manage to exist without enjoying the spirtual abundance of thriving and the mental clarity of flow?
Where is your energy? Where are your dreams? Where is your focus? Where is your passion? It seems that you are there but your spirit is not there. Where is the glow in your eyes, the smile on your face and the energy that can change the world in your heart.

You were free and then you were born, your spirit is immortal, even when die your spirit goes to another world but your spirit stays alive and is set free again. So there is nothing to be afraid of!  Nothing can let your spirit down , your fear, your greed, your failures , your stupidity,your poverty! This is not your core! Your spirit is your core and its essence is its presence, its influence, its higher values, its honour, its grace ,its sense of cheerfulness and joy! The curiosity, the love, the wonder and the excitment!
Yes, you need to find your spiritual grace because you are already have it! Your grace is within you and without you, just be yourself.
Free your spirit from the separating chains of judgement to the garden of understanding where you find grounds for compassion and view yourself and your world differently, start a , do not judge or fight. Remember, it is very easy and quick to judge and very hard to understand, even your own self. Today, before you judge anything or anyone, stop for 5 seconds,think and try to understand the reasoning behind the actions or the drivers of the situation, not the easy mental shortcut of judging and complaining. It will help you understand and find your spirit and your energy.

COMMON FALLACIES IN REASONING

COMMON FALLACIES IN REASONING

1. FAULTY CAUSE: (post hoc ergo propter hoc) mistakes correlation or association for causation, by assuming that because one thing follows another it was caused by the other.

example: A black cat crossed Babbs' path yesterday and, sure enough, she was involved in an automobile accident later that same afternoon.

example: The introduction of sex education courses at the high school level has resulted in increased promiscuity among teens. A recent study revealed that the number of reported cases of STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) was significantly higher for high schools that offered courses in sex education than for high schools that did not.

2. SWEEPING GENERALIZATION: (dicto simpliciter) assumes that what is true of the whole will also be true of the part, or that what is true in most instances will be true in all instances.

example: Muffin must be rich or have rich parents, because she belongs to ZXQ, and ZXQ is the richest sorority on campus.

example: I'd like to hire you, but you're an ex-felon and statistics show that 80% of ex-felons recidivate.

3. HASTY GENERALIZATION: bases an inference on too small a sample, or on an unrepresentative sample. Often, a single example or instance is used as the basis for a broader generalization.

example: All of those movie stars are really rude. I asked Kevin Costner for his autograph in a restaurant in Westwood the other evening, and he told me to get lost.

example: Pit Bulls are actually gentle, sweet dogs. My next door neighbor has one and his dog loves to romp and play with all the kids in the neighborhood!

4. FAULTY ANALOGY: (can be literal or figurative) assumes that because two things, events, or situations are alike in some known respects, that they are alike in other unknown respects.

example: What's the big deal about the early pioneers killing a few Indians in order to settle the West? After all, you can't make an omelette without breaking a few eggs.

example: Banning "head" shops from selling drug paraphernalia in order to curb drug abuse makes about as much sense as banning bikinis to reduce promiscuity.

5. APPEAL TO IGNORANCE: (argumentum ad ignorantiam) attempts to use an opponent's inability to disprove a conclusion as proof of the validity of the conclusion, i.e. "You can't prove I'm wrong, so I must be right."

example: We can safely conclude that there is intelligent life elsewhere in the galaxy, because thus far no one has been able to prove that there is not.

example: The new form of experimental chemotherapy must be working; not a single patient has returned to complain.

6. BIFURCATION: (either-or, black or white, all or nothing fallacy) assumes that two categories are mutually exclusive and exhaustive, that is, something is either a member of one or the other, but not both or some third category.

example: Either you favor a strong national defense, or you favor allowing other nations to dictate our foreign policy.

example: It’s not TV. It’s HBO.

7. FALSE DILEMMA: (a form of bifurcation) implies that one of two outcomes is inevitable, and both have negative consequences.

example: Either you buy a large car and watch it guzzle away your paycheck, or you buy a small car and take a greater risk of being injured or killed in the event of an accident.

example: You can put your money in a savings account, in which case the IRS will tax you on the interest, and inflation will erode the value of your money, or you can avoid maintaining a savings account in which case you will have nothing to fall back on in a financial emergency.

8. FAULTY SIGN: (also includes argument from circumstance) wrongly assumes that one event or phenomenon is a reliable indicator or predictor of another event or phenomenon.

example: the cars driving in the opposite direction have their lights on; they must be part of a funeral procession.

example: That guy is wearing a Raiders jacket and baggy pants. I’ll bet he’s a gang member.

9. DAMNING THE SOURCE: (ad hominem, sometimes called the genetic fallacy) attempts to refute an argument by indicting the source of the argument, rather than the substance of the argument itself.

example: There is no reason to listen to the arguments of those who oppose school prayer, for they are the arguments of atheists!

example: The American Trial Lawyers Association favors of this piece of legislation, so you know it has to be bad for ordinary citizens.

10. TU QUOQUE: (look who's talking or two wrongs make a right) pointing to a similar wrong or error committed by another.

example: Gee, Mom and Dad, how can you tell me not to do drugs when you both smoke cigarettes and drink alcohol?

example: The United States has no business criticizing the human rights policies of the Third World nations, not as long as discrimination and segregation continue to exist in the United States.

11. EQUIVOCATION: allows a key word or term in an argument to shift its meaning during the course of the argument. The result is that the conclusion of the argument is not concerned with the same thing as the premise(s).

example: Only man is rational. No woman is a man. Therefore, no woman is rational.

example: No one who has the slightest acquaintance with science can reasonably doubt that the miracles in the Bible actually took place. Every year we witness countless new miracles in the form recombinant DNA, micro-chips, organ transplants, and the like. (the word "miracle" does not have the same meaning in each case)

12. BEGGING THE QUESTION: (petitio principii) entails making an argument, the conclusion of which is based on an unstated or unproven assumption. In question form, this fallacy is known as a COMPLEX QUESTION.

example: Abortion is murder, since killing a baby is an act of murder.

example: Have you stopped beating your wife?

13. TAUTOLOGY: (a sub-category of circular argument) defining terms or qualifying an argument in such a way that it would be impossible to disprove the argument. Often, the rationale for the argument is merely a restatement of the conclusion in different words.

example: The Bible is the word of God. We know this because the Bible itself tells us so.

example: You are a disagreeable person and, if you disagree with me on this, it will only further prove what a disagreeable person you are.

14. APPEAL TO AUTHORITY: (ipse dixit also called ad verecundiam sometimes) attempts to justify an argument by citing a highly admired or well-known (but not necessarily qualified) figure who supports the conclusion being offered.

example: If it's good enough for (insert celebrity's name here), it's good enough for me.

example: Laws against marijuana are plain silly. Why, Thomas Jefferson is known to have raised hemp on his own plantation.

15. APPEAL TO TRADITION: (don't rock the boat or ad verecundiam) based on the principle of "letting sleeping dogs lie". We should continue to do things as they have been done in the past. We shouldn't challenge time-honored customs or traditions.

example: Of course we have to play "pomp and circumstance" at graduation, because that's always been the song that is played.

example: Why do I make wine this way? Because my father made wine this way, and his father made wine this way.

16. APPEAL TO THE CROWD: (ad populum or playing to the gallery) refers to popular opinion or majority sentiment in order to provide support for a claim. Often the "common man" or "common sense" provides the basis for the claim.

example: all I can say is that if living together is immoral, then I have plenty of company.

example: Professor Windplenty's test was extremely unfair. Just ask anyone who took it.

17. STRAW MAN: stating an opponent's argument in an extreme or exaggerated form, or attacking a weaker, irrelevant portion of an opponent's argument.

example: A mandatory seat belt law could never be enforced. You can't issue citations to dead people.

example: What woman in her right mind could truly desire total equality with men? No woman wants the right to be shot at in times of war, the right to have to pay alimony, or the right to have to use the same restrooms as men.

18. SLIPPERY SLOPE: (sometimes called a snowball argument or domino theory) suggests that if one step or action is taken it will invariably lead to similar steps or actions, the end results of which are negative or undesirable. A slippery slope always assume a chain reaction of cause-effect events which result in some eventual dire outcome.

example: If the Supreme Court allows abortion, next think you know they'll allow euthanasia, and it won't be long before society disposes of all those persons whom it deems unwanted or undesirable.

example: If I let one student interrupt my lecture with a question, then I'll have to let others and, before long, there won't be any time left for my lecture.

19. APPEALING TO EXTREMES: A fallacy very similar to slippery slope, which involves taking an argumentative claim or assertion to its extreme, even though the arguer does not advocate the extreme interpretation. The difference between the two fallacies is that appealing to extremes does not necessarily involve a sequence of causal connections.

example: Husband to ex-wife: Well, if you want to be completely fair about dividing everything up, you should get one of my testicles and I should get one of your breasts!

example: Debtor to creditor: Hey, you've already repossessed my car and my television. Why don't you just draw a quart of blood or carve a pound of flesh from my heart too?

20. HYPOTHESIS CONTRARY TO FACT: This fallacy consists of offering a poorly supported claim about what might have happened in the past or future if circumstances or conditions were other than they actually were or are. The fallacy also involves treating hypothetical situations as if they were fact.

example: If you had only tasted the stewed snails, I'm sure you would have liked them.

example: If Hitler had not invaded Russia and opened up two military fronts, the Nazis would surely have won the war.

21. NON SEQUITAR: (literally means "does not follow") in a general sense any argument which fails to establish a connection between the premises and the conclusion may be called a non-sequitar. In practice, however, the label non-sequitar tends to be reserved for arguments in which irrelevant reasons are offered to support a claim.

example: I wore a red shirt when I took the test, so that is probably why I did so well on the test.

example: Mr Boswell couldn't be the person who poisoned our cat, Truffles, because when I used to take Truffles for walks he always smiled and said "Hello" when we walked by.

22. RED HERRING: attempting to hide a weakness in an argument by drawing attention away from the real issue. A red herring fallacy is thus a diversionary tactic or an attempt to confuse or fog the issue being debated. The name of the fallacy comes from the days of fox hunting, when a herring was dragged across the trail of a fox in order to throw the dogs off the scent.

example: accused by his wife of cheating at cards, Ned replies "Nothing I do ever pleases you. I spent all last week repainting the bathroom, and then you said you didn't like the color."

example: There's too much fuss and concern about saving the environment. We can't create an Eden on earth. And even if we could, remember Adam and Eve got bored in the Garden of Eden anyway!

23. INCONSISTENCY: advancing an argument that is self-contradictory, or that is based on mutually inconsistent premises.

Example: A used car salespersons says, "Hey, you can’t trust those other car salesman. They’ll say anything to gt you to buy a car from them."

Example: A parent has just read a child the story of Cinderella. The child asks, "If the coach, and the footmen, and the beautiful clothes all turned back into the pumpkin, the mice, and the rags, then how come the glass slipper didn’t change back too?"

Source: Common fallacies in reasoning ,2011

 

Girl at heart

Hey beautiful charming woman and handsome young man, you beautiful inside out, what's wrong with you? You are full of glamour, your life is rich, your life is meaningful , everything is fine , your intellect, your finances, your looks, your style, the lovely smile on your face. You are full of life, you are full of hope for the future, your dreams never end and the you keep on impressing everyone with your success and the depth and breadth of your personality. You have your habits, you play sports, you read and write and you  have caring friends and business associates who make your life insightful . 

The story of your life is great ,yet you need to take one idea off your mind.

You don't have a husband! This is the problem! The dilemma many young women approach in their late thirties and forties and probably fifties is a mere illusion and self fulfilling prophecy that takes a lot of the quality of life . You are not alone, social norms are changing and life has a lot to offer to the young lady than just marriage. This is not a feminist anti establishment post but rather magnifies the importance of not missing the big picture and wholeness of life to the tree of marriage.

Marriage is not good or bad, it is a matter of probability and not a must have possibility. Life is always about 50/50 chance, you either make it or not, so you are getting married or not, while the expected value of your life as a whole is the sum of your education, career, life purpose, relationships and the dent you could make in the world. Your legacy is not your marriage. You can see some young girls in rural areas getting married around 18 years old and living a life in informal slavery? Would you trade your life with one of those girls? The taboo of marriage and aging has to be broken, you are not your age and you are not your status. You are valued, loved and appreciated the way you are. Society has to stop putiing any bachelorette under extreme countdown like time pressure with this make believe a FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) mindset, stop it !It doesn't matter!!! If you are 60 and never married, it doesn't matter, if you are a single mom it doesn't matter, if you are widowed it doesn't matter. Live your life and enjoy every breath you take because life is about the moments you live, not the status on your id.

Freeing your mind will make you feel liberated, no anxiety , no waiting, richer relationships with friends and family, a better ability to fulfill your potential as you are waiting for no one but yourself.

When you’re living your life confidently, freely and without restraint, you emit the kind of energy that it just isn’t possible to fake. The kind of energy that’s capable of transforming not just your own life, but the lives of people around you.

Enjoy your life now

Are you Snow White--?

Snow White is innocent, kind, gentle, sweet, and cheerful. Her generous, trusting and helpful nature can cause her trouble, as other people might take advantage of it.Although she is sensitive and soft-spoken, she can be energetic and stern, such as when she told the Seven Dwarfs to wash their hands or when she scolded the birds for "frightening the poor old lady [the Queen disguised as an old peddler woman]". Snow White is motherly, compassionate and delights in keeping house for the lovable Seven Dwarfs while she waits to meet her beloved prince again.With her kindness and ethereal beauty, Snow White charms every creature in the kingdom except the Queen.She also shows great resilience and an inner strength against adversity.

However, having the sensitive and soft-spoken part taking over might make you think like this:

-I am not responsible for my decisions.
-I am not responsible for my own happiness.
-Life is really tough and has always been tough.
-I am a victim of circumstance.
-There is nothing i can do to change things "That's the way it is" is a common statement.
-Others are not helping me.
-Others should understand me.
-Falling apart and being helpless is part of my life.
-The world is a harsh place.

Never forget the following Facts of life:
-Not all people are going to be friendly.
-Some people never change.
-Some people never understand.
-Some people are not going to like you.
-People vary from day to day.
-No one is all bad.
-No one is all good.
-No one will agree with everything you say everytime.

In Order to let yourself develop, adopt this resilient mindset by allowing yourself to change and grow:

-Nobody likes a victim.
-Nobody owes you anything.
-Everybody likes a postive-acting person.
-Happiness is not something to be guilty about.
-Happiness is a choice you make.
-Looking after your happiness is not selfish.
-Life is what you make of it, not what it throws at you.
-Everybody is responsible for his own actions and attitudes.
-Assertiveness is normal and what adults do.

Reference: The Chimp Paradox,Prof Steve Peters

Truth

Truth or an accurate understanding of reality is the essential foundation of any good outcome.

Most people fight seeing what is true when it is not what they want it to be. That's bad, as it is more important to understand the bad stuff as the good stuff will take care of itself.
Be radically open minded and radically transparent to have rapid learning and effective change.
Learning is a real time continious feedback loop as we make decisions, see their outcome and improve our understanding of reality as we see the results.
Being open minded and transparent helps you in having an efficient learning process, the more open minded you are the less likely you will deceive yourself and the more others will give you feedback in an honest way.
Don't let fears of what others think of you stand in your way, being transparent helps you in understanding yourself and understanding others.
When we know what is true, we will have less misunderstandings, will be more efficient and focus on what matters.
Unhide and open up by embracing openess and transparency and this will bring meaningful work and meaningful relationships.

Adapted from Principles, Ray Dalio

Balance

You wake up in the morning, full of hope and looking for the new day.

You go off balance for a reason or another and you temporary lose your focus and your state of relaxed alertness, you subsequently make a mistake, then you start a chain reaction of bad choices and poor judgement that totally spoil your day and can cost you time, money and loss of relationships without any control from your part, like a sea wave that strikes the shore.

What went wrong? You simply lost your balance and when you lose your balance you get pulled in different directions reaching undesired outcomes.

Every action is consequential and can provoke an undesired chain reaction which blows everything off.

You have to train to stick to your core when under pressure, and keep your eyes on the ball, stay focused and relaxed.

It takes a lot of effort, meditation, prayers and relaxed mind to be able to sense and capture the right signals of the mind and the surrounding environment (family, work, business environment, financial markets) adjusting your mindset to the singnals of the environment is another area of development too through having an open mind, being able to entertain an idea without accepting it and eliminating inner conflicts to have the right decision and best response to life events.

Life is not meditation in isolation while running away from reality, it is about finding the right balance between practicality and the ability to dream making a small dent of change in the world.

Find your balance now!