You are not who you think you are

Are you weak?
Are you sensitive?
Why do you feel hurt?
Why do you feel inferior?
You are not who you think you are!

Overreaction outbalances relationships and eats the tolerance away. It is sad that people lose their mind and hurt people who love them badly with accusations, false assumptions and bites of hate. Tolerance and understanding are the path to conflict resolution.  Whenever you get emotionally highjacked, recognize it and countdown from 5 to 1 to end it. Short circuit your anger and resentment or you will transfer them to whoever is around you at the moment . Energy doesn't fade, it converts and negative energy isn't even best transmitted via anger. It has to be critically examined and channeled properly in a healthy manner.

Every moment is a flower that you have to grow with love and understanding. Just don't assume and let go.

Missed

I know you are free now, your spirit is free, your soul must be flying in an eternal sea of colours, beautiful smells, amazing feelings and god's love. 
You nust be sitting somewhere peacefully with happiness filling you with the mercy of god, you are closer to god than anyone of us now, you can reach for him to accept our prayers in our fast momentary flashing life in the line of eternity. You feel the tranquility, you see the angels, you see heaven, no more pain, no more hopes, just the face of reality, eternity in its embracing form, happiness is the essence and purity is the lasting state.

I know you wanted to stay more just to see us grow wiser, we were all kids when you were there, Mama will take care off you, Mama will hug you and make the pain go away, now we understand that all the money in the world can't buy you a loving hug, that we all need to hold strong in the river of life, now places, songs, food, events and people have a different taste, the taste of memories, the taste of seeing the spirit in the people you met and loved, the taste of life , the values of strength, the agreableness and natural empathy. 
You are living in all of us and yet you will always be missed.

Mothers Day-Without You

Here comes the day when we celebrate mothers' day while you are not physically with us.

It is a strange new feeling , feels so empty and meaningless without you. As if the whole commercial mothers gifts mantra was revolving around you when you were alive and now it disappeared after you are gone and to the opposite bring winds of emotions of separation. It is not the same, it is not the same anymore. I will try to relive with memories , with photos or videos of days gone by , but I will never ever see on that day again in this life; this feels so sad yet true and striking. Reality strikes with its hammer!

What can I do to fill this void, the problem with losing your mother is more complex than missing the default free tenderness umbrella in your life, it is missing the existensial cornerstone of your emotional support and empathy. You lose your biggest fan. You are playing on your own now!
No one can feel the loss until they suffer it and any coping mechanism to deal with grief doesn't substitute the obvious, she is gone, the emptiness can't be filled.

What I ll do is pray for kindness, pray for love, pray for courage , thank god for being lucky for having my mother for a longer time than many poeople, pray she is feeling good now in heaven , looking at her photos and smile and spread words of love and gratitude with people I love , love you Mama

Morning Gift

I love you above and beyond your imagination.

Yes you, just believe in yourself and believe in me.
Just close your eyes for 5 seconds and set your mind free. It is just a fantasy for you and me, close as at should be in unity , love and affection. A recreation of when we first met, no grudges, no misery, no pain, just a childish hope with an openess to the world where the sky is the space and the mind is flowing with positivity and joy.

Just close your eyes, 5,4,3,2,1 LOVE.

Yes Love, eternal love that flows like a river but is still like a mountain . No judgement, patience, good intentions, smile, positivity, understanding and harmony.
Close your eyes and let go of anything that holds you back, it is just a thought, a thought that comes and goes,just watch it and keep the good seeds in and leave the bad ones (everything is relative) out.

Grow the tree of love again, feel the passion in your heart, be optimistic about each day you live as it is a gift of god.

Just get the fire back to your eyes, feel it in your voice,hear it with the tap of your feet on the ground, you vibrate ,you shine, you give love and live it with every step on earth,just take it easy on yourself and always believe in yourself and always believe in love.

90 days

Ninenty days have passed since your are gone.
The body has died but your spirit lives on.
Your sage word of wisdom, your big picture views.
The encouraging smile despite your intense pain.
Your ultimate presence and the shining glitter in your eyes.
Nothing could take down your spirit till the last minute of your life.
The mind was sharpely present and the heart full of hope.
Living minute by minute enjoying the gift of life and the essence of existence by always connecting to your higher self, the pure version of you.
Souls are immortal and beautiful spirits never die.
You are still shining on me as long as I am alive
The values, the spirit, the strength, the resilience, the courage to conquer fear, the power to fight the endless pain with a smile.
You never complained and you always pushed forward with a smile and a big heart and an amazingly strong willed spirit.
I know that your spirit is immortal and you must be living now in the hands of God where there is no separation, pain but ultimate joy and the freedom of your kind beautiful soul.
God Bless you Mama!

How is your Spirit Going?

Do you feel tired? Is your body aching? Do you feel you are just too bored to fight another fight even if you are fighting for your life ? Do you have an existential energy deficiency where you just manage to exist without enjoying the spirtual abundance of thriving and the mental clarity of flow?
Where is your energy? Where are your dreams? Where is your focus? Where is your passion? It seems that you are there but your spirit is not there. Where is the glow in your eyes, the smile on your face and the energy that can change the world in your heart.

You were free and then you were born, your spirit is immortal, even when die your spirit goes to another world but your spirit stays alive and is set free again. So there is nothing to be afraid of!  Nothing can let your spirit down , your fear, your greed, your failures , your stupidity,your poverty! This is not your core! Your spirit is your core and its essence is its presence, its influence, its higher values, its honour, its grace ,its sense of cheerfulness and joy! The curiosity, the love, the wonder and the excitment!
Yes, you need to find your spiritual grace because you are already have it! Your grace is within you and without you, just be yourself.
Free your spirit from the separating chains of judgement to the garden of understanding where you find grounds for compassion and view yourself and your world differently, start a , do not judge or fight. Remember, it is very easy and quick to judge and very hard to understand, even your own self. Today, before you judge anything or anyone, stop for 5 seconds,think and try to understand the reasoning behind the actions or the drivers of the situation, not the easy mental shortcut of judging and complaining. It will help you understand and find your spirit and your energy.

Balance

You wake up in the morning, full of hope and looking for the new day.

You go off balance for a reason or another and you temporary lose your focus and your state of relaxed alertness, you subsequently make a mistake, then you start a chain reaction of bad choices and poor judgement that totally spoil your day and can cost you time, money and loss of relationships without any control from your part, like a sea wave that strikes the shore.

What went wrong? You simply lost your balance and when you lose your balance you get pulled in different directions reaching undesired outcomes.

Every action is consequential and can provoke an undesired chain reaction which blows everything off.

You have to train to stick to your core when under pressure, and keep your eyes on the ball, stay focused and relaxed.

It takes a lot of effort, meditation, prayers and relaxed mind to be able to sense and capture the right signals of the mind and the surrounding environment (family, work, business environment, financial markets) adjusting your mindset to the singnals of the environment is another area of development too through having an open mind, being able to entertain an idea without accepting it and eliminating inner conflicts to have the right decision and best response to life events.

Life is not meditation in isolation while running away from reality, it is about finding the right balance between practicality and the ability to dream making a small dent of change in the world.

Find your balance now!

Separation

Imagine an object in space that’s been separated from anything that could cause friction or movement – well, that object will still be in motion. This is the law of conservation of momentum at work, which shows us that it is natural for such objects to be forever in motion without any cause.

Separation is the action or state of moving or being moved apart..
Separation is the division of something into constituent or distinct elements.

Separation can mean many things — from divorce to the absence of a loved one during a leave of duty. Whether you are going through a permanent or temporary separation, you may feel lost to yourself, heartbroken, and disoriented. By taking the time to feel sad, connect with others, and feed your own joy, you will cope effectively with your separation.

Allow yourself to feel what you feel
Let is go the time it goes, there is no time for grief to go.
Remember the good times, allow yourself to have bad days, find your inner peace.
Smile and live your life.

Now after all of this classic selfhelp, what really happened and what can you do?
Yes you have lost her, you will never see her again, the beautiful smile, the giggeling laughter, the talks, the walks, the dreams evaporating, the destinations that you will never go to again , the restaurants that will eternally smell the sad scent of rupture. You tried to save her but you couldn't, you wanted to but you couldn't, she keept on smiling and fighting cheering you through the way but everything comes to an end and here comes separation with all of its capturing emotions, feelings of irreversible loss and damage to the soul. Separation punches your face, and hammers your head and makes you feel irrelevant like one million little pieces floating in a sea if inexistence and hoplessness.
There is nothing you can do to get your loss back, the time that will never come again, the hurt emotions, the miserable tears and the mountain of existential vaccum that cripples your soul.
You can't get her off your mind, you just can't let go and move forward.

Your moments are what you take from your life, this why photography is the art of preserving moments which will never comeback and this is the nature of life, you have to accept your feelings, absorb reality and live through your moments like a moments in photos, whenever you are missing, get into your memory and roll your imsgination on, get the beautiful moment out, enjoy it and move on through the tough reality for the sake of fulfilling your life purpose and for the sake of love, pure love

The power of Concentration

You Can Do It  if You  Believe You Can

Concentration is the act of focusing the mind upon a given desire until  ways and means for its realization have been worked out and successfully  put into operation.

First is forming a habit which is a mental path that your actions have gone through several times. You have to remove the obtacles, pave the mental path and then travel it while  forgetting the temptations of the old habits. It not who you are , it is who you become.

Next the environment, you have to immerse yourself in books, attend conferences, community, relevant news, socialmedia and have the relevant training within your area of concentration. Your environment will help you in attracting the right ideas and tools necessary to accomplish your definite chief aim. Your environment is a magnet that helps in turning your dreams into reality. Surround yourself with people who inspire you.

Concentration is the ability to keep your mind and expertize on the subject until you finally master it.
Control your attention and focus on a problem until you solve it.

In order to ignite your concentration, you have to restore your ambition and desire. See yourself 5 or 10 years from now, where do you want to be ? Where are your dreams? Do you still have any? There is nothing that can make up a lost imagination.

Get the magic key of concentration, one thing at a time, one step at a time, quit living in the past and the days that would never return.
Re-create yourself!

Confidence is Capital

The day you start trusting yourself is the day you start living.

According to Napoleon Hill, There are six fears in life that you should master in order to have the ultimate confidence:
-Fear of poverty: you will not starve
-Fear of ill health: exercise
-Fear of old age: age is a number
-Fear of criticism: find merit in criticism
-Fear of loss of love: keep your doors open
-Fear of death: value each day of your life

Our decisions shape our destinty, each and every little decision, the decision what to eat, who to marry, where to work, the sort of career you have, whether to have a startup or remain as an employee, each and every decsion has consequences on the short term and long term. So, what's new about this? There is a fine line that connects your self confidence and your ability to make decisions, when life is happening, you trust that everything is falling into place and that you are that incredible genius that the world awaits, that you really matter in history and all of this self agrandizing things. When you just fall back according to some mispriced values, you start to have doubts about your capabilities and you start to overthink and your actions become paralysed.

Why do we all fall sometimes into the trap that we can control the boat through controlling the river flow and direction? We can't actually control the intensity of the journey nor the exact direction, we try to sail but we have to remain open to new possibilities that our own life self perceived drift has created. As long as we trust ourselves that we can be wrong and that most people are wrong most of the time, we will be able to entertain ideas critically and more objectively , we will take off the burden of the daily decision making and focus on what really matters which is the quality of our life jouney, not the destination.
Trust your ability to sail, embrace yourself in making mistakes and never lose trust in your ability to live and make decisions. Live it!

Find Yourself

Finding yourself could be a very interesting question.

Is it about finding your existing self or the self you aspire to have? What are the values that make you , what values are holding you back? Is your self stable or dynamic, is it stagnant or flowing? What is your core? What do you do on daily basis that goes along your self values, what else stems from your aspiring selves? How some of your actions contradict all aspects of the self?

The self is like a house that has values as foundations while expanding on building bricks each and every day through small acts with people that finally build you into who you aspire to be. A self full of energy keeping the right energy and learning in.
The relationship with the self shouldn't be a love hate relationship, it is a long term relation where you accept your limitations, pour energy on your seeds of growth and allow yourself to flourish and become a better person.

Please escape any label that limits you; you are not old, age is a number, you are not broke, money is an idea, if you are single , life is not marriage.
You are not the type of person who gets annoyed easily, you have just become that and by being loyal to your assumed self, you keep on interacting the same way.

Your view of yourself will expand with your connection to the world and other humans through small acts of goodness, write a blog and send it to your close friends, smile, ask about a friend or relative, try to help someone ir do a free service today, it will definitely enrich your day and add one brick at a time for your future self.

Today, be the joy to the world and try to conceptualize the concept of self from an ego-driven to a reality-driven mindset through your small acts, and if you can't do anything, just smile and you will have a better day

You are a Baby

You are a Baby.

Yes you are, each and everyone has baby inside him/her that has never grown up.

A baby who looks for recognition, a baby who looks for love, acceptance, cheering, delight and pampering.
A baby who wants someone to pick him/her up whenever it falls, a baby who wants a hand for calm, a baby looking for someone to dry the tears and wash away the fears.
You can sometimes go emotional about something and cry over it , whether it is a lover, a business opportunity or big toy like a car or diamond ring! You just can't let it go.

An expansive angle is to enjoy your baby mentality and use the enthuthiasm which is a driving force behind your creativity and mind enriching activities while getting more self control about your crying episodes.
Also.critically, try to understand the elevator's ups and downs by enjoying the ride and being less critical of yourself and those around you.

Babies teach through their creative genius and their deep concentration and undivided attention while doing one thing at a time.

Learn to explore the new, make multiple combinations,make mistakes and keep pushing forward like a baby.

There is no stronger lesson in life than seeing a baby learning to walk, the baby tries, falls, again and again in patience resilience until the baby finally walks. The baby never loses hope and knows it will rise in the end.

Enjoy the baby within you.

Message of Gratitude

"The goodness of human nature is like water tending to flow downward. Just as there is no water that does not flow downward, there are no humans who do not have Goodness".

So proud of my mother; a real fighter, lived her life with a strong spirit, was never afraid of death, was appreciating the gift of life each and every day, giving support to her family and friends and never complaining. The beautiful free spirit will always live in each and everyone they have had a trace with, a smile, an advice, a warm welcome, real sincerity and real gratitude and gratification.
The charm, niceness, unconditional love and beautiful heart and soul will live forever,
I would like to thank you for always being inspiring, with your strength,your wisdom, your humour, your charm, your intelligence and you wit. You always stood by me and you are always my last escape. Your tenderness and foresight are always amazing. Your smile is the most amazing with a lot of confidence and hope.

Today one month after you are gone to a better place, I write this message of gratitude for you and all of my family and friends creating a message of love and hope to help maintain your spark as per your life time values.

Always open up for those who support you , remember when you moved through dark times, when in most in need, those who always noticed the positive about you , took care of you, enjoyed your sheer presence, made contribution with their time, gave genuine advice, stood by each other and reflected on you.

The time of challenge brings light, people sit together, talk with each other , cry with each other, and light the flame with each other. Just be there.

The small acts you make in everyday life can have huge impact on the lives of many though it might look traditional or less exciting.
Always see the positive in everyone and everything, be less critical of situations and embracing of people.

May you be happy
May you be safe
May you be at peace
Love you

Your Spark will Always Live.

Don't Let Yourself Down

One step at a time,one breath at a time, one smile at a time and take it easy on yourself. The more you seek positivity the more negative you will become , don't run after success or you will keep feeling as a failure. Don't seek love and  acceptance in otherwise you will feel lonely and rejected.
Stop looking for positivity and be comfortable with yourself and open to the world as always, it is surprising to let yourself down that you let your emotions control your thoughts and make you feel bad, emotions are just emotions, let them fly in the air
like bubbles and let them go.

Life will have its ups and down as if you are an elevator operator so live with it and take the bumps of change.
The transformation you want and that frustrates you will happen eventually, just give life a chance to unfold and stop trying to force life as life needs to blossom on its own and its pace.
Tip of the day: Stop thinking and enjoy the next breath you take and unchain yourself from hopes, expectations and the past, just take a breath and feel the beauty within you now .
The day you start trusting yourself is the day you start living

Morning Step

"ONE STEP AT A TIME IS ENOUGH FOR ME"
Step-by-step, I have  the power to  change  all  that is not working in  my life.  With  each step I  take, I am on  the  pathway to the  best of who I am.   Sometimes  I  go  a  bit  off-course, but I  always  find  my  way  back again.  Peace comes  from  realizing that all that  needs to  be done  will  be done.  I just start from  the place where I am right now  and take  it one step  at  a  time.   In  so  doing,  I  pull  myself  out of the  rut of  inaction.  I trust the  wisdom  within my being to  show  me what  needs to  be  done.   And  I  will  do  it...one  step  at  a  time.   I  take  a  deep  breath  and  relax.  Yes…  ,Susan Jeffers.
As you wake up in the morning,open your eyes,start your day with a smile and positivity.
The first step today is to have a "Miracle Morning".

1)Meditation
You should change your morning ritual immediately.
Start with meditation,one breath in an one breath out,it will help you focus on your breath,focus on your thoughts one thought at a time and recognise your emotions.
You can use a cool application called "Calm".
http://calm.com/app

2)Affirmations
Have a positive affirmation every day,it will get deep into your spirit and make you feel good,even if you don't feel good,fake it until you make it.
An example of affirmations is "Whatever Happens,I will Handle It".

3)Visualization
Your affirmations can help you visualize the answers when you ask yourself questions such as, “What do I want?” “Why do I want it?” and “What am I committed to doing in order to get there?”

4) Morning Excercise
Morning exercise will keep your body healthy and spur your success just feeling good because you’re in shape.

5)Reading
Reading books on personal development in the morning is one quick means of gaining insight from others who have experienced success.
Use Blinkist for reading.
Hey, I'm reading The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod on Blinkist. Blinkist offers the best knowledge from nonfiction in powerful, memorable packs.

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6) Writing
Well, writing for just five to ten minutes every morning will accelerate your personal growth.
By writing each day, you can review what you have learned, gain clarity on your problems and achievements, and acknowledge your progress along the way.
Use blogger.com for writing.

Make your Miracle Morning a new habit by having an accountability partner and committing to a 30-day challenge, start be at least 1 minute for each activity (6 minutes in total).

"Our habits create our lives"

Use six steps every morning to start living the life of our dreams: silence, affirmations, visualization, exercise, reading and writing.”

Get happy about tomorrow

Reference The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod on Blinkist.