Are you Snow White--?

Snow White is innocent, kind, gentle, sweet, and cheerful. Her generous, trusting and helpful nature can cause her trouble, as other people might take advantage of it.Although she is sensitive and soft-spoken, she can be energetic and stern, such as when she told the Seven Dwarfs to wash their hands or when she scolded the birds for "frightening the poor old lady [the Queen disguised as an old peddler woman]". Snow White is motherly, compassionate and delights in keeping house for the lovable Seven Dwarfs while she waits to meet her beloved prince again.With her kindness and ethereal beauty, Snow White charms every creature in the kingdom except the Queen.She also shows great resilience and an inner strength against adversity.

However, having the sensitive and soft-spoken part taking over might make you think like this:

-I am not responsible for my decisions.
-I am not responsible for my own happiness.
-Life is really tough and has always been tough.
-I am a victim of circumstance.
-There is nothing i can do to change things "That's the way it is" is a common statement.
-Others are not helping me.
-Others should understand me.
-Falling apart and being helpless is part of my life.
-The world is a harsh place.

Never forget the following Facts of life:
-Not all people are going to be friendly.
-Some people never change.
-Some people never understand.
-Some people are not going to like you.
-People vary from day to day.
-No one is all bad.
-No one is all good.
-No one will agree with everything you say everytime.

In Order to let yourself develop, adopt this resilient mindset by allowing yourself to change and grow:

-Nobody likes a victim.
-Nobody owes you anything.
-Everybody likes a postive-acting person.
-Happiness is not something to be guilty about.
-Happiness is a choice you make.
-Looking after your happiness is not selfish.
-Life is what you make of it, not what it throws at you.
-Everybody is responsible for his own actions and attitudes.
-Assertiveness is normal and what adults do.

Reference: The Chimp Paradox,Prof Steve Peters

Truth

Truth or an accurate understanding of reality is the essential foundation of any good outcome.

Most people fight seeing what is true when it is not what they want it to be. That's bad, as it is more important to understand the bad stuff as the good stuff will take care of itself.
Be radically open minded and radically transparent to have rapid learning and effective change.
Learning is a real time continious feedback loop as we make decisions, see their outcome and improve our understanding of reality as we see the results.
Being open minded and transparent helps you in having an efficient learning process, the more open minded you are the less likely you will deceive yourself and the more others will give you feedback in an honest way.
Don't let fears of what others think of you stand in your way, being transparent helps you in understanding yourself and understanding others.
When we know what is true, we will have less misunderstandings, will be more efficient and focus on what matters.
Unhide and open up by embracing openess and transparency and this will bring meaningful work and meaningful relationships.

Adapted from Principles, Ray Dalio

Balance

You wake up in the morning, full of hope and looking for the new day.

You go off balance for a reason or another and you temporary lose your focus and your state of relaxed alertness, you subsequently make a mistake, then you start a chain reaction of bad choices and poor judgement that totally spoil your day and can cost you time, money and loss of relationships without any control from your part, like a sea wave that strikes the shore.

What went wrong? You simply lost your balance and when you lose your balance you get pulled in different directions reaching undesired outcomes.

Every action is consequential and can provoke an undesired chain reaction which blows everything off.

You have to train to stick to your core when under pressure, and keep your eyes on the ball, stay focused and relaxed.

It takes a lot of effort, meditation, prayers and relaxed mind to be able to sense and capture the right signals of the mind and the surrounding environment (family, work, business environment, financial markets) adjusting your mindset to the singnals of the environment is another area of development too through having an open mind, being able to entertain an idea without accepting it and eliminating inner conflicts to have the right decision and best response to life events.

Life is not meditation in isolation while running away from reality, it is about finding the right balance between practicality and the ability to dream making a small dent of change in the world.

Find your balance now!

Separation

Imagine an object in space that’s been separated from anything that could cause friction or movement – well, that object will still be in motion. This is the law of conservation of momentum at work, which shows us that it is natural for such objects to be forever in motion without any cause.

Separation is the action or state of moving or being moved apart..
Separation is the division of something into constituent or distinct elements.

Separation can mean many things — from divorce to the absence of a loved one during a leave of duty. Whether you are going through a permanent or temporary separation, you may feel lost to yourself, heartbroken, and disoriented. By taking the time to feel sad, connect with others, and feed your own joy, you will cope effectively with your separation.

Allow yourself to feel what you feel
Let is go the time it goes, there is no time for grief to go.
Remember the good times, allow yourself to have bad days, find your inner peace.
Smile and live your life.

Now after all of this classic selfhelp, what really happened and what can you do?
Yes you have lost her, you will never see her again, the beautiful smile, the giggeling laughter, the talks, the walks, the dreams evaporating, the destinations that you will never go to again , the restaurants that will eternally smell the sad scent of rupture. You tried to save her but you couldn't, you wanted to but you couldn't, she keept on smiling and fighting cheering you through the way but everything comes to an end and here comes separation with all of its capturing emotions, feelings of irreversible loss and damage to the soul. Separation punches your face, and hammers your head and makes you feel irrelevant like one million little pieces floating in a sea if inexistence and hoplessness.
There is nothing you can do to get your loss back, the time that will never come again, the hurt emotions, the miserable tears and the mountain of existential vaccum that cripples your soul.
You can't get her off your mind, you just can't let go and move forward.

Your moments are what you take from your life, this why photography is the art of preserving moments which will never comeback and this is the nature of life, you have to accept your feelings, absorb reality and live through your moments like a moments in photos, whenever you are missing, get into your memory and roll your imsgination on, get the beautiful moment out, enjoy it and move on through the tough reality for the sake of fulfilling your life purpose and for the sake of love, pure love

The power of Concentration

You Can Do It  if You  Believe You Can

Concentration is the act of focusing the mind upon a given desire until  ways and means for its realization have been worked out and successfully  put into operation.

First is forming a habit which is a mental path that your actions have gone through several times. You have to remove the obtacles, pave the mental path and then travel it while  forgetting the temptations of the old habits. It not who you are , it is who you become.

Next the environment, you have to immerse yourself in books, attend conferences, community, relevant news, socialmedia and have the relevant training within your area of concentration. Your environment will help you in attracting the right ideas and tools necessary to accomplish your definite chief aim. Your environment is a magnet that helps in turning your dreams into reality. Surround yourself with people who inspire you.

Concentration is the ability to keep your mind and expertize on the subject until you finally master it.
Control your attention and focus on a problem until you solve it.

In order to ignite your concentration, you have to restore your ambition and desire. See yourself 5 or 10 years from now, where do you want to be ? Where are your dreams? Do you still have any? There is nothing that can make up a lost imagination.

Get the magic key of concentration, one thing at a time, one step at a time, quit living in the past and the days that would never return.
Re-create yourself!

Can you buy happiness ?

Can you buy happiness ?
You can’t become happy through external things like success or wealth. It’s only by looking inside yourself that you can find real joy

Happiness is thought as a momentary, fleeting feeling. The intensity and duration depend on circumstances outside their control.

Real, profound happiness is something more: it comes with having a healthy state of mind.

The way you think, live and perceive the world around you has a major impact on your mental well-being.

Seek happiness within yourself, not from the outside world.

You can’t buy happiness. In fact, external factors in general have a limited impact on happiness. Wealth and social status do have some effect on your happiness, but they only account for about 10 to 15 percent of it.

Happiness would be out of reach if it was purely an external phenomenon. After all, our desires know no limits; the amount of control we have over the world, in contrast, is very limited.
Consider love, for example. There’s no way to ensure that your lover will always love you back. So if your happiness depends on that, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment and heartbreak.
A person might get excited about buying a new car, for example, only to have that joy squashed when a newer model comes out. That’s what happens when you seek happiness in the outside, instead of focusing on your inner being.
When you have an interior life,” she wrote, “it certainly doesn’t matter what side of the prison fence you’re on.”
Happiness is not the same thing as pleasure.
Long-lasting happiness shouldn’t be confused with pleasure. A lot of people assume that fame or wealth would bring them all they desire, but such things offer only short-term satisfaction and won’t have much influence on your well-being.
Suffering is universal and unavoidable, but that our pain doesn’t actually stem from the suffering we experience. Rather, it stems from the unhappiness we create.
Free yourself from your own ego.
A person who clings to a specific self-image will do anything to make sure that that image is recognized and accepted.
Real confidence and inner peace can only be achieved through egolessness.
Detaching from your ego makes you less vulnerable and gives you inner strength, putting you on the path toward true, profound happiness
Thoughts and emotions can be your best friends – but they can also be your worst enemies.
Examine your negative thoughts and emotions so you can overcome them and achieve inner peace.
You can only understand your negative thoughts by thinking deeply about their roots. You’ll be able to deconstruct them and see that, at the core, they don’t have any substance.
Achieving long-lasting happiness is hard work. It requires overcoming your ego, reconciling yourself to negative emotions, reorienting your world view and re-examining the definition of concepts like “happiness” and “pleasure.” You can’t do those things overnight, but if you stay dedicated to the path, you can bring yourself to a high sense of sukha – an achievement much more fulfilling than any temporary pleasure you might get from wealth or fame.

Practice Gratitude
Love and accept yourself
Learn to let go
Live in the now
Embrace uncertainty
Proritize your health
Take time to play

Reference Happiness by Matthieu Ricard, blinkist.
http://blinki.st/fea8a39b1243?chapter=56b8a8cdd119f90007000014

Confidence is Capital

The day you start trusting yourself is the day you start living.

According to Napoleon Hill, There are six fears in life that you should master in order to have the ultimate confidence:
-Fear of poverty: you will not starve
-Fear of ill health: exercise
-Fear of old age: age is a number
-Fear of criticism: find merit in criticism
-Fear of loss of love: keep your doors open
-Fear of death: value each day of your life

Our decisions shape our destinty, each and every little decision, the decision what to eat, who to marry, where to work, the sort of career you have, whether to have a startup or remain as an employee, each and every decsion has consequences on the short term and long term. So, what's new about this? There is a fine line that connects your self confidence and your ability to make decisions, when life is happening, you trust that everything is falling into place and that you are that incredible genius that the world awaits, that you really matter in history and all of this self agrandizing things. When you just fall back according to some mispriced values, you start to have doubts about your capabilities and you start to overthink and your actions become paralysed.

Why do we all fall sometimes into the trap that we can control the boat through controlling the river flow and direction? We can't actually control the intensity of the journey nor the exact direction, we try to sail but we have to remain open to new possibilities that our own life self perceived drift has created. As long as we trust ourselves that we can be wrong and that most people are wrong most of the time, we will be able to entertain ideas critically and more objectively , we will take off the burden of the daily decision making and focus on what really matters which is the quality of our life jouney, not the destination.
Trust your ability to sail, embrace yourself in making mistakes and never lose trust in your ability to live and make decisions. Live it!